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The Truth About Love

Seeded on Wed May 20, 2009 1:53 PM EDT
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A Good News interview with Dr. Pat Love.

"PL: Let me give you a few research statistics that I thought were profound. Three out of four Americans believe that marriage is designed not for the bearing and raising of children but for personal fulfillment. In other words, each partner is saying, "Your job is to make me happy"—that's the purpose of marriage, and if you're not making me happy then the marriage isn't viable.

That's a seismic shift from the past generation—this idea that you're required to meet my ongoing needs and make me happy. And there's no research to back up the notion that another person could ever make someone happy. "

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Jarrod-317505

I certainly don't think marriage is strictly for raising children or for personal satisfaction. What about the interpretation: "It is for spending my life with the person I love and doing my best to make THEM happy?"

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Reply#1 - Wed May 20, 2009 4:18 PM EDT
Rainkiss

You nailed it, Jarrod.

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#1.1 - Wed May 20, 2009 4:34 PM EDT
nicedream1

Marriage is for both. The problem comes when society has tried to separate the procreative from the unitive aspect of sex. Everything has devolved into 'me me me'. It's no longer about 'loving your wife as Christ loves the Church' but rather 'he/she isn't doing it for me anymore'.

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#1.2 - Wed May 20, 2009 4:54 PM EDT
Jarrod-317505

I've actually thought about this more. Love should not be selfish. But I think everyone still has the right to be happy in their marriage. If you love someone, you should give of yourself and care about their happiness. But there are indeed "bad marriages" where one person just isn't giving anything. And I understand having to put yourself first there. Although I don't think that's really what is meant by the article.

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#1.3 - Wed May 20, 2009 5:04 PM EDT
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